10 Reasons Why Marraiges Hit The Rocks

1. No sex - When the sex has gone out of the marriage, the relationship is in trouble. Near-Zero sex life-If sex becomes a duty and there is an unconscious calendar for which day’s sex will happen is a deal breaker. Unless you can rekindle the flame, you are probably headed for the rocks or to a divorce court.
2. Not Doing the Little Things - Movies show marriages as grand loves. But, in the real world, marriages are made up of the little things - taking out the trash, picking up the kids from school, tidying up the dining table while she is fixing dinner, fueling the generator or simply forgetting to say thank you when appropriate. If there are frustrations over the little things, it can erode the whole marriage.
3. Spending too much time apart - If friends, work, phone call conversations, hanging out with family or other hobbies take too much time away from your marriage, the bonds can begin to erode.
4. Criticizing and nagging - Pestering your wife or husband over the most mundane things, or sniffing around even when there is no need for it can eat away at the soul of a marriage. It reduces one partner to a bore or a pain in the ass and strain the marriage.
5. Money-when the husband’s cash flow is no longer flowing as it use to and all the luxury is fast disappearing tension often builds and a recipe for manage failure is ready made. Also, married couples fail to cope with life’s trials or hard times. When painful trials come into the marriage, instead of standing together through them, couples tend to blame each other or in other words think something is wrong with the spouse and the way they handle the pain and this leads to their separation.
6. Letting yourself go - You spent a considerable amount of effort pursuing and attracting your spouse. That effort shouldn’t have ended on your wedding day or soon thereafter. If you are no longer working to make yourself attractive to your spouse, you must assume that he or she will look elsewhere.
7. Playing the victim - Is it always his fault? Did she make you do it? If you feel like you are the victim in the relationship, it probably won’t last much longer.
8. Not fighting fair - You are entitled to your legitimate feelings, but when disagreements occur, you must keep your arguments real and relevant. Loud arguments and failure to accept blame or say sorry at all times when there is a disagreement can be acidic. Avoid character assassination. Remain task oriented rather than accusatory. And, allow your partner to retreat with dignity.
9. Spilling secrets - There are things in your marriage that should only be between the two of you. When you tell your friends or family members about things that shouldn’t be shared, you erode the bonds of the marriage. This is a matter of trust.
10. Fifty-fifty -the Couples fall into the concept of a “fifty-fifty” relationship, meaning they honestly expect their spouses to meet them halfway on all aspects

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